Mental Health: Anxiety + Depression

"Mom says happy is a decision": Can you explain the dark days of depression to someone who is afraid of the dark?

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"Mom says happy is a decision": Can you explain the dark days of depression to someone who is afraid of the dark?

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Melissa McLaughlin

It's a difficult question to answer. Yes, you can explain but that does not mean they will be able to understand. The closest I've come to being able to explain depression to someone who has never experienced it is through my artwork or poetry. Even then, I usually only feel partially understood by others who have gone through a similar hell.

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babygirl32962

Awesome I can totally relate!!!

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Amanda

Wow... This made me cry! I cried because that poem came from between her lips but spoke from my soul!! I cried because it hurts so very badly to know another human being has endured the immense suffering and knows, feels depression!
I would never wish this crippling, debilitating disease that turns you against yourself upon my worst of enemies provided I had any!!! NEVER!
To know the sadness, the loneliness, the feelings of hopelessness, despair, negativity, self doubt, insomnia, hyper-somnia, worthlessness, and misery... Sheer misery is like no other!
Happiness is a decision?!? I should think not! Anyone who sadly knows what it's like to be your own worst enemy and to have moments, days, months of wanting to die to end the suffering that is depression, could only know how absurd a statement this is! And to try and explain it to others when they haven't the slightest sliver of a clue...... Impossible. Sure one can try.... But then run smack into a clueless wall of senseless statements such as, "what is so bad in your life that causes you to be depressed?"... Or, "Cheer up, things are never as bad as they seem." ... Or, just think happy, and choose to be happy." Or, in this particular instance, "Happy is a decision."
Tuh! Lord it just sounds so damn simple doesn't it??? Granted, most of those statements are rendered harmless by a loved one whom is only attempting to understand or help but in essence..... No one could ever fully understand the intensity and depth of the grey, gloomy, unrelenting, constantly cycling, engulfing, lingering, taunting, fuzzy, torturing dark cloud that is depression!
Sabrina honey, I know you.... We are strangers yet... I know you. You are me. This poem is powerful, raw and real and I thank you!!! Every voice spoken aloud is another step forward in the fight for mental health advocacy, awareness, and help in breaking the stigma! May God Bless you! At your weakest, strength prevails. <3

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amygratton39

Just be there for them

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endthestig

No, I also struggle with chronic depression and anxiety and explaining those personal dark days of depression will never be fully understood by anyone, except for maybe the person who is living with depression. I stress ' maybe' because as she mentions at the end, we sometimes do not understand why. There are days that I am unable to get out of bed and I will sleep an entire day away when I don't have any obligations that day, and I have had really, really bad days where I was unable to get out of bed for even the important days. It is a personal struggle that only that individual can understand. It's difficult to explain to your boss why you did not show up to work or call, but the reality is that you slept until closing time and nobody was there to answer the phone when you finally awoke. I will never understand this illness, but I have worked hard to overcome it. Despite the mistakes I've made, I have also made tremendous strides. I succeed academically and my depression has only interefered in my personal and professional life twice this year. Those small victories are momentous to me, and many do not know that I live with depression and anxiety.

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greylover

Besides Andrew Solomon, who wrote the book, "The Noonday Demon," you have explained facets of depression eloquently.

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Kathryn Kadwell

You have done an amazing job with expression and mental health issues. Thank you for sharing

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CCW

Now I can talk about it, but when I was going through emotional hell after my sister passed, explaining how depressed I was to my mom was really difficult.

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Lori Jones

All I can say is - wow. Such beautiful a spoken word performance. I'm in awe.

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dinomite

A mother will always love her child no matter what.

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Shana Punam

I think this young lady just did it, and BEAUTIFULLY I might add.

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Bianca Polermo

I know it is difficult, but it is always worth a try to share what your going through with others. Sometimes, people surprise you with understanding.

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Katie

One of the most painful parts of coping with depression is when others - especially your parents - can't understand the complexities of depression. Bravo, Sabrina, you are a lady viking.

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