Parenting: Co, Step + Single

Co-parenting can be hard AF. Do you have any tips that actually work to share with us?

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Karen Cahn

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Co-parenting can be hard AF. Do you have any tips that actually work to share with us?

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Karen Cahn

one new one I have is to take a day before answering emails that upset you.

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Claire HarnEnz

I agree with Karen on all these tips! I think if you follow these tips, things will go great. My parents failed at coparenting me through the holidays. Their fights were horrible and christmas is not my favorite holiday to this day for the reason.

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limitdsunshine

I wish my ex and I could do this. Every time things appear to be getting better, he backslides and causes more problems :/

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Suzie Florence

Thank you so much for posting this. This is my first holiday divorced and admitting up front that it's going to be shitty was a huge relief for me.

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Avian Emelle

It is only hard due to the fact we are thinking more of self versus our children. Ive been coparenting for a long time with two different men. Yes, you read that correctly, i gots two baby daddies. Lol! And the only time it works if we think of our children. We dont have a set standard for who gets the kids on the holidays. Usually easiest just to agree to alternate years. But me personally sometimes their dads may have plans the kids may have more fun with or the other way around with me. Also things like grandparents and other family members and such can come into play. Im pretty unconventional and open minded so its easy for me to have them and celebrate on a day other than the day of. Those who arent as open and feel the need to celebrate the day of have to just alternate years and be cool about it for the kids because kids feel the tension even if you try not to talk about it in front of them as to which can ruin their holiday enjoyment with all that negativity dancing in their heads. Make them feel good about having a good time with the other parent and they'll be more open to talk about it. Dont feel sad that u werent the one they had fun with that holiday be happy that they had a great holiday.

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Maggie O

I think Mandy's advice in the video was spot on.

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Valerie Frank

Amazing video, and a great reminder to everyone to keep the holidays centered on what's best for the kids.

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Francine Zuo

I wish my parents had seen this video. They were so terrible every year about splitting up the holidays. They always left it to us kids to decide who we wanted to spend it with and I felt so bad everytime I had to choose.

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Jashita Baret

I wish my parents had this video when i was growing up. I got pulled in both directions every holiday and it sucked.

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Susan Katz

this video is great! such good tips and tricks. the idea that the date is not important is a really good one!

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MichelleBelle

good idea about not buying extra gifts. this is the hardest one for me.

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Galit

I really love this conversation + how the women in the video are sharing what they know. I truly hope that someone who needs to hear that things will get easier/ they can so do this sees this video!

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Karen Cahn

People, it's not easy. I have literally failed this entire week because I have not taken my own advice!!

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Kate Anderson

I think being as inclusive as possible helps. Both of my grandparents are divorced and my dad's mom always invited her ex-husband (my grandpa) and his wife to Christmas. I grew up lucky to be surrounded by so much love and lucky not to have to schlep from place to place.

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